A Marriage of Flesh and Bones

November 8, 2011 at 1:39 pm | Posted in Biblical Marriage | 11 Comments
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For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Ephesians 5:30

Because marriage is a God-ordained institution, when you got married, you and your spouse became one flesh. In a physical body, “flesh” is the source of strength. If your spouse is weak, you must be his or her strength. You became “one set of bones.” Bones provide structure.


If your spouse is not holding up his or her part of the structure of married life, you must hold up your spouse’s part for him or her. Christ will empower you to do it. A body is flesh and bones, but neither flesh nor bones work without blood. In marriage, love is the blood of the body. It circulates and carries nourishment. It circulates and removes impurities. If your spouse is not pumping love into the marriage, you must pump enough love for both of you.

From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.

Ephesians 4:16

-Adam gave part of himself (his rib) to get a bride; Christ gave ALL of Himself.
-God opened Adam’s side; sinful men pierced Christ’s side.

And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

Ephesians 5:18

We do not use the Holy Spirit. He uses us. We submit to the will of the Holy Spirit when we read and hear and obey the Word of God. Faking it will not work.

Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

Romans 12:9

Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:

I Peter 1:22

If you don’t feel loving toward your spouse, use the love you feel toward Christ as your motivation. Perform acts of grace and mercy on your spouse, regardless of whether he or she appreciates it or responds, because that is evidence of genuine love for Christ.


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