Whose Idea WAS this Marriage?

November 21, 2011 at 10:40 am | Posted in Biblical Marriage | 14 Comments
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And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Genesis 2:18-25

The Bible answers the question, “Whose idea was marriage?” Marriage was invented by God. It also answers the question, “For whom was marriage invented?” Marriage was invented by and for God, to be used by Him as an illustration of Christ and His Church. God is the One Who decided that it was not good for man to be alone. God is the One Who decided what it was that would solve that problem: a woman. The woman would be both “mankind” (of man’s kind) and yet inalterably different. Both man and woman would be creatures with the same essential relationship to God, but with great variety in how they related to God. As one half of a married couple, you must remember to nurture your spouse’s own individual relationship with God.

The most obvious way to do this is by reminding your spouse to pray and read the Bible, but if your spouse is uncooperative or unwilling, there are more subtle ways:

1. Living a Godly life yourself
2. Thinking of creative ways to inspire interest in God
3. Asking your spouse questions about God even if you are more likely to be the one that knows the answers
4. Suggesting attending church, and setting a good example by going yourself and taking the kids, even if your spouse won’t go
5. Getting involved in ministry activities so that your spouse can see that your relationship with God is real, and not just limited to church attendance once or twice a week

These types of things remind us of the sameness and the variety of our different roles in God’s plan. Your spouse needs to see that it is possible that you could both serve the same God – but that you might each delight in Him in a variety of different ways.

Here is another glorious thing about knowing that God is the One Who created marriage:

And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

Genesis 2:22

Did God create woman and then tell Adam to go find her? No, He brought her to Adam. God gave away the first bride in the first marriage ceremony. And even better: He didn’t really “give her away;” He placed her into the stewardship of the husband. Marriage was a whole new relationship. Our sin nature and this world’s system want to make us think that because marriage is between two people, then one or the other must be central. Or that the relationship itself is central. The radical thing about knowing what we know about the way marriage pictures Christ’s relationship to the Church is that marriage can be focused on the togetherness of two creatures, but with Christ as the Center: the True Focus.


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