Is It Mean to Talk about Divorce?

February 12, 2020 at 10:47 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 2 Comments
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Question: Aren’t you afraid that, when you say that God does not condone divorce, you are insulting, embarrassing, and alienating Christians who have been divorced? It’s easy for you talk, because you haven’t been divorced, but not everyone is so blessed.

Answer: That’s certainly not my intention. Divorce is a touchy subject, and I try to be sensitive, not offensive. Let me be clear. Some of my closest friends are Christians who have been divorced, and I do not think of them as “lesser” Christians, or people who are “worse” than me or anyone else. I am well aware that only by the grace of God am I married to a wonderful, forgiving, faithful wife that I do not deserve.

When someone asks me what the Bible says, then I am bound and obligated, as a Christian, and especially as a Bible teacher, to tell the truth, and I believe that the Bible teaches that divorce and marriage-after-divorce are sins (Genesis 2:21-24; Malachi 2:16; Mark 10:6-9; Ephesians 5:23-33; Hebrews 13:4; Matthew 5:32, 19:7-9; Luke 16:18). That has nothing to do with my marriage, or whether or not I have been divorced.

However, divorce is a sin for which Jesus was punished and for which He paid in full on the Cross for all those who believe on Him. It is a forgivable sin, and not a worse sin than pride, covetousness, spite, idolatry, and the many other sins of which I am guilty. I love and respect Christians who have been divorced and/or remarried, but have also confessed and repented, and I very much want their current marriages to thrive and to glorify God. I hope and pray that does not sound mean, unkind, or unrighteously judgmental.

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