Ghosting Based on Hearsay?

April 23, 2020 at 9:09 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment
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Question: We signed our son up for little league baseball. His coach turned out to be a Christian, and, over time, he did a number of things for our family. He would tell us he was praying for us. He would invite us to church and talk to us about Jesus. He would get us anniversary and birthday cards and gift cards to restaurants. He even came to the hospital when one of us got sick or when we had another baby. He always showed up on time for baseball practice, and he was always well-prepared for the games. Then, one day, a couple of the other players’ parents told us that he did something we just didn’t agree with, so we took our son off the team immediately, and stopped coming to the games. Do you think this was the right thing to do?

Answer: I’m confused about why you didn’t ask the coach about his reasons for what he supposedly did wrong, or even if what you heard about him was true. It doesn’t make sense to simply take what someone says about a third person at face value, especially when the coach had demonstrated good character and loyalty to you for a significant period of time. Matthew 18:15-16 comes to mind. I know a little league team is not a church, but you did say the coach was a fellow Christian, and the principle (if not the precept) of going to someone personally if you have a problem with him, rather than just assuming the worst, would seem to apply. Also, Proverbs 18:13 says, “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.” It is foolish to decide to be upset with someone about something he allegedly did without even getting his side of the story. The Bible even says it is shameful. So, to be blunt, no, I don’t think what you did was the right thing to do.

I’m Just Sayin’ 4

April 30, 2009 at 11:29 am | Posted in I'm Just Sayin' | 9 Comments
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I coached girls’ little league tee-ball and softball for about 12 years, because I have three daughters. I was not the greatest coach ever, but, I’m just sayin’, in those 12 years, I did gain some experience. I learned a few things.

One of the most important things I learned was that, although softball/baseball has a special jargon, as a coach, you can not assume that young girls understand all, or even any, of it.

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The last year that I coached I did not get to be a head coach. I was an assistant coach. The head coach of our team was a nice guy, but I’m just sayin’, when it came to communicating with the girls on the team, he did not have a clue.

We can argue about whether 9 and 10 year old girls should know what “play deep” or “choke up on it” means, but, whether or not they should know, the fact is, most of them do not know.

Girls that age need to be told where to stand, where to look, where to run, where to throw, and when to get a bat, a helmet, or a glove. They need to be told that they can’t take their Nintendo onto the field. I’m just sayin’.

When the coach will not realize or accept this principle, the results range from frustrating to disastrous.

Coach: (Jumping up and down yelling, as the ball is thrown into the infield, and the base runner is halfway from second base to third) “Get on the bag! Get on the bag!”

He means for the player to hurry up and get her feet on third base. But she does not know that “bag” means base, so she thinks he is saying, “Get on back! Get on back!” She turns and heads back to second base, and is tagged out.

Coach: “Go two! Go two!” The coach’s team is on defense, so he means that when a ground ball is hit to the infield they should throw it to second base for the force-out.

But the girls hear, “Go two!” and think, “What? I just went to the bathroom and did ‘number one’ before the game. I don’t have to ‘go two.'”

Coach: “Full count!” This happens when he is telling the batter there are three balls and two strikes. But the batter is now looking around wildly for a European nobleman who had too much to eat. Maybe he’s skulking around the concession stand with a cape and a rapier. Meanwhile, strike three goes sailing by.

Coach: “Good eye! Good eye!” This is yelled down to the batter after she wisely decided not to swing at a bad pitch. (I played organized baseball from age 4 to age 18, and no one ever yelled “Good eye!” to me.) The batter is now wondering if her mother was right in saying that she’s too young to wear mascara.

The confusion is endless. As a coach it is exhausting having to explain things like, “When that girl who has the bat hits the ball to you, be sure and bend down and pick it up FIRST, and then run – as fast as you can – like when you are chasing your little brother out of your room – and step on this base here – WHILE YOU’RE STILL HOLDING the ball.” Very un-baseball-lingo sounding, I know. But very necessary if you want to get an out, end the inning, and get home in time for homework, bath, and bed. I’m just sayin’.


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