Juliette and Joey
October 28, 2021 at 12:29 pm | Posted in Ephesians, Uncategorized | 4 CommentsTags: Biblical marriage, Christian marriage, Ephesians 5, Gospel marriage, marriage, marriage in the Bible, marriage vows, wedding ceremony, wedding vows
Remarks from my third daughter’s (the first to get married) wedding on February 12, 2021:
We are gathered here today in the presence of God and in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord to witness and to celebrate this marriage. We thank God for the gift of marriage, and on behalf of the bride and groom and their families, we thank you for coming.
This is an emotional day for my wife and I. I suspect it is for some of you as well. In our marriage my wife is in charge of the emotions. I don’t do emotions very well. I’m in charge of laundry and killing spiders.
When you are the father of a daughter, the idea that she will one day get married takes some getting used to. It’s hard to imagine anyone loving your daughter enough to take care of her the way you would want her to be taken care of. Like anything in life, though, prayer helps a lot. We started praying a long time ago that if it is God’s will for our daughter to be married, He would provide the right husband for her, and we believe He has done that. We prayed for him before we knew him. I’m sure his parents prayed for our daughter to come along one day, too.
My wife and I describe our daughter with words like humble, caring, smart, funny, and extraordinarily kind. We haven’t known the groom nearly as long, but we believe that he is hardworking, trustworthy, attentive, and supportive of other people, and that he cares about things that really matter.
So today we are seeing a good example of prayers being answered. (Maybe not concerning the weather, but concerning the marriage.) Aside from Jesus saving me from the penalty of my sins and giving me eternal life, marriage has been the greatest blessing of my life. I highly recommend it to everyone. And because God has helped us to think about it correctly, today is a day of great rejoicing. Plus, it’s only day number one of a lifetime of greater and greater blessings and greater and greater joys.
Let me read a short passage of Scripture from the Bible that gives God’s revelation of what marriage really means:
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-33
This is the Word of God, Who invented and designed marriage, and Who has ordained it. The first marriage occurred between the first man and the first woman, Adam and Eve, and for centuries people found great joy in marriages that honored God. However, it was not until the days of the New Testament that the Holy Spirit fully revealed the mystery of God’s true purpose in marriage. Christian marriage was designed by God to be an illustration of the relationship between Christ and His Church.
The husband represents Christ, Who is the Head of the Church. He cherishes the people that make up His Church, and He gave Himself for them. He loves, serves, sacrifices, and provides for His Church. In the same way, a husband must selflessly love, cherish, and serve his wife, sacrificing for her, providing for her, and giving himself for her, directing her toward righteousness in Christ Jesus.
The wife represents the Church, who willingly submits to Jesus, seeking to serve, love, honor, and respect Him. A Christian wife must lovingly and willingly submit to her husband as he himself submits to Christ. She must be a helper and show him reverence.
In this way, not only will the husband and wife grow closer to each other, and find great joy in their marriage, but they will help each other draw closer and closer to Jesus, and they will show the world the glory of Christ and what it means to love and serve like Him.
I would encourage each of you in attendance today, as friends and family members, to pray for Joey and Juliette and their marriage, that they would accurately symbolize the Gospel of Jesus Christ in their marriage. I would also encourage you, as faithful friends and fellow Christians, to be available whenever possible to show your loyalty to Jesus and to the groom and the bride by only giving them help or advice that is consistent with the Word of God.
If any of this sounds foreign to you, or you’re wondering about the difference between Christian marriage and marriage in general, or if you’re not completely sure what I mean when I talk about the Gospel of Jesus Christ, allow me to show you from the Bible how you can have eternal life by trusting in Jesus.
Now, we will hear the groom’s and bride’s vows.
To the groom: Do you take this woman to be your wife in the holy covenant of Christian marriage, promising to love her, honor her, protect her, provide for her, be faithful to her, and to give yourself for her as Christ gave himself for His Church?
Groom: I do.
Do you promise with God’s help to honor these vows to her in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in poverty, for better and for worse, in times of joy and in times of grief, forsaking all others and continuing to abide with her as long as you both shall live?
Groom: I do.
To the bride: Do you take this man Scott to be your husband, promising to love, reverence, honor, help him, be faithful to him, and to lovingly submit to him as he honors Christ in your marriage?
Bride: I do.
Do you promise with God’s help to honor these vows to him in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in poverty, for better and for worse, in times of joy and in times of grief, forsaking all others and continuing to abide with him as long as you both shall live?
Groom to bride: I take you to be my wife, and I promise and commit in the presence of God and these witnesses to love and serve you as long as we both shall live.
Bride to groom: I take you to be my husband, and I promise and commit in the presence of God and these witnesses to love and serve you as long as we both shall live.
Groom to bride: I give you this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.
Bride to groom: I give you this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.
Prayer: Lord God, we ask you to bless this covenant of marriage between Joey and Juliette. Please help them to honor the vows that they have made today, and give them a joyful, fruitful, loving, Gospel-centered, Christ-honoring, and grace-fueled marriage, so that their love for You and for each other grows greater, deeper, and richer each day. In the name of Jesus Christ our Lord we pray. Amen.
Considering the vows you have made today and in view of what the Bible says about the glorious gift of marriage, I am pleased to pronounce you husband and wife. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.
Now you may give each other a publicly appropriate kiss.
Should We be Happy When a Terrorist Dies?
October 18, 2021 at 12:07 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 2 CommentsTags: abortion, America, Biblical Q&A, commentary on Ezekiel, Ezekiel 18, patriotism, Soleimani, Sunday School lessons on Ezekiel, terrorism
Question: How do you feel about the death of Iranian General Soleimani? It seems like every American ought to be happy he’s dead.
Answer: I don’t follow all the news coverage closely enough to give any kind of authoritative opinion on how anyone “ought” to feel. I never really know how much of what is reported in the news to believe or disbelieve. Based on what I’ve read and heard, he was a really evil man and a terrorist, responsible for the deaths of Americans and others, and was actively plotting more deaths and acts of terror when he was killed. If all that’s true, then I can understand the sentiment of being relieved that he’s been stopped from committing more evil, and, in a way, punished for what he had already done.
However, I don’t really feel happiness when someone dies without trusting Christ (Ezekiel 18:23, 33:11). God can cause the most wicked, evil person in the world to repent, trust Christ, and be forgiven, and, even though it might be scandalous to say it, that should, I think, make us happier than hearing that such a person has been killed.
As an American, I appreciate victories over our enemies, but I am also forced to remember that, however many Americans Soleimani killed, or was responsible for killing, Planned Parenthood and the abortion doctors have killed more Americans than him just this week, and they are not being targeted with any drone strikes. Let’s not assume that America, as much as we love it, is always God’s personal instrument of righteous justice or vengeance. We have a lot of blood on our hands.
I want to be sufficiently patriotic, but I want to think and feel first and foremost how God would want me to think and feel about these sorts of things.
Someone serving in the military, or someone whose loved one serves, or someone who has lost a loved one to a terrorist attack might have a different view on this, I realize. I’m not trying to offend anyone.
On the Horns of a Dilemma
October 15, 2021 at 11:27 am | Posted in Uncategorized | 4 CommentsTags: 1 Kings 1, 1 Kings 2, Adonijah, death of Joab, Exodus 21, Exodus 27, Hebrews 10, Joab, King David, Solomon
God’s law provided a place of refuge when a person committed manslaughter, so that he could not be harmed until the facts were heard.
He that smiteth a man, so that he die, shall be surely put to death. And if a man lie not in wait, but God deliver him into his hand; then I will appoint thee a place whither he shall flee. But if a man come presumptuously upon his neighbour, to slay him with guile; thou shalt take him from mine altar, that he may die.
Exodus 21:12-14
And thou shalt make an altar of shittim wood, five cubits long, and five cubits broad; the altar shall be foursquare: and the height thereof shall be three cubits. And thou shalt make the horns of it upon the four corners thereof: his horns shall be of the same: and thou shalt overlay it with brass.
Exodus 27:1-2
These were the instructions that God gave to Moses for building the altar of sacrifice. The altar was built with what we call acacia wood, and it had, at each of its four corners, a horn, like a bull’s horn, curving upward.
Many centuries later, when King David was on his death bed, this feature became relevant in an important Biblical narrative. The altar of burnt offerings had horns which could be seized in an attempt to claim sanctuary. This altar was kept in a tent or a tabernacle in anticipation of its being moved into its future home in the Temple, which David’s son, Solomon, would build. David learned that his eldest son Adonijah was going to seize the throne for himself and try to circumvent God’s promise that Solomon would replace David as King, so David went ahead and had Solomon anointed as King (co-regent) while David was still alive. Adonijah, along with those who had conspired with him to seize the throne, was celebrating when word reached them that David had beaten them to the punch and named Solomon as king. A messenger showed up at Adonijah’s coronation celebration and said this:
And also Solomon sitteth on the throne of the kingdom. And moreover the king’s servants came to bless our lord king David, saying, God make the name of Solomon better than thy name, and make his throne greater than thy throne. And the king bowed himself upon the bed. And also thus said the king, Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, which hath given one to sit on my throne this day, mine eyes even seeing it. And all the guests that were with Adonijah were afraid, and rose up, and went every man his way. And Adonijah feared because of Solomon, and arose, and went, and caught hold on the horns of the altar.
I Kings 1:46-50
Adonijah feared that his treason against his father the King, and against his own brother, the newly-crowned co-king, would mean his death, so he fled to a place that he thought would secure his safety. Sometimes in movies, a fugitive will run into a church, thought to be a safe-haven or a place of sanctuary.
There were cities of refuge for this purpose under the Mosaic covenant.
And it was told Solomon, saying, Behold, Adonijah feareth king Solomon: for, lo, he hath caught hold on the horns of the altar, saying, Let king Solomon swear unto me today that he will not slay his servant with the sword.
I Kings 1:51
This tactic did work. Solomon allowed Adonijah to live, and to go home, but when David ultimately died, Adonijah tried again. His co-conspirators included Abiathar, the high priest, and Joab, men who at times had been loyal to David, but had turned against him at the end. Joab, who was the general of David’s armies, had committed two murders many years ago, for which he had never been punished. When he learned that Adonijah had been killed for this second attempt to take the throne from Solomon, he knew that his number was up, and, perhaps remembering Adonijah’s tactic, tried the same thing:
Then tidings came to Joab: for Joab had turned after Adonijah, though he turned not after Absalom. And Joab fled unto the tabernacle of the Lord, and caught hold on the horns of the altar. And it was told king Solomon that Joab was fled unto the tabernacle of the Lord; and, behold, he is by the altar. Then Solomon sent Benaiah the son of Jehoiada, saying, Go, fall upon him. And Benaiah came to the tabernacle of the Lord, and said unto him, Thus saith the king, Come forth. And he said, Nay; but I will die here. And Benaiah brought the king word again, saying, Thus said Joab, and thus he answered me.
I Kings 2:28-30
To be caught on the “horns of a dilemma” is two face two alternatives, either of which has an unpleasant or undesired consequence:
Child: Can I have ice cream?
Parent: Only if you eat a vegetable.
Child: What vegetable are we having?
Parent: You can choose between broccoli and bruussels sprouts.
Or, in a more serious example, parents sometimes find themselves on the horns of a dilemma which looks something like this: We can spend more hours working to afford better things for our children, or we can actually spend time with them at the expense of providing some enjoyable things. Life would be simple if all choices were clear-cut.
We can see a couple of lessons about the predicament in which Joab found himself after fleeing to the altar and seizing the horns for protection.
1. When we have sinned, safety from the consequences of our sins is not found in a place.
I am thankful for the building we call the church. I am even more thankful for the “actual” Church: God’s people who meet together to encourage each other, to build each other up, to minister as a team, to comfort and pray for each other and with each other. Church is a Biblical activity. We are commanded to be a part of it and to participate in it.
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
Hebrews 10:25
However, church itself is not our place of refuge when we have sinned against God. Joab was a military man. He was a man of war, a man of bloodshed, and a man of military opportunism. We could praise him for his loyalty to God’s anointed king, David – while it lasted. However, if your loyalty is to another person, more so than to God Himself, you are risking disappointment and discouragement, and are missing out on the joy, blessings, benefits, and security that come from having a true loyalty to God Himself first and foremost. There is no indication in the history of Joab’s public service, as we find it in Scripture, that he was a man who visited the altar regularly. There is no evidence of his piety or a meaningful and personal relationship with the Lord. At the end of your life, or at a time of crisis, a visit to a location associated with the worship of God is no guarantee of safety.
Church is a place and a body where we invest our lives, not a place to visit once in a while for appearance’s sake or as a last ditch desperate attempt to appease a God we only “knew” through second- or third-hand reports. Make sure you are no stranger to the altar where sins are confessed and forgiveness is granted. It can be a sweet place of intimacy and fellowship with the Lord for those who seek to know HIM, not only his human representatives or the accessories of his worship.
2. The ordinances of God are not a substitute for true grace and true faith.
The horns on the altar of sacrifice to which Joab clung were never intended as a superstitious talisman. They did not hold any magic power, any more than the pole designated as “base” does in a game of playground tag. The Lord’s Supper is no substitute for God’s grace. Baptism is not a substitute for faith in Christ. Church membership is no substitute for true salvation. Having a grandpa who was a faithful Chrsitian preacher or ten generations of great-grandpas who were all church deacons is no substitute for being born again as a child of God. We praise the Lord for His ordinances. They help us to remember Him, and they encourage us to examine our lives, but they do not infuse grace supernaturally, and a non-Christian who partakes of the Lord’s Supper, gets baptized, or joins a church commits a greater sin than one who admits these things are forbidden to him unless he surrenders to Christ. Joab, in a desperate attempt to keep from reaping the consequences of his sins, suddenly became very serious about getting to the altar. Did it work?
So Benaiah the son of Jehoiada went up, and fell upon him, and slew him: and he was buried in his own house in the wilderness.
I Kings 2:34
There is a picture here of the Gospel, and there is a foreshadowing of the Person and work of Christ which was to come, as there is in so many of the Old Testament stories.
The person who lives in egregious sin throughout his life, as well as the person who is a religious hypocrite, is in line for God’s wrath, just as Joab was in line for Solomon’s wrath. God’s justice will be done on those who have broken His law. However, there is a place of refuge even greater and more secure than the horns of the altar, and the sincere sinner, who is truly sorry for his sins, may flee there, even in the last moment of his life, and find safety, pardon, and forgiveness.
Joab did not find it because he only wanted the opportunity to get out of trouble. People will not find in Christ a superficial loophole to escape God’s wrath, but they may find the bloody Cross, the real altar which the Tabernacle altar pointed to, with two “horns,” upon which the Son of God’s arms were stretched wide, and, on the horns of that dilemma, they may find a perfect and dying Savior who did not try to escape the righteous wrath of God, but suffered it in the place of those who truly believe in Him, and there they may humbly beg His forgiveness and receive His salvation.
What the Old Need to Tell the Young
October 4, 2021 at 2:18 pm | Posted in Joshua | 2 CommentsTags: commentary on Joshua, elders, generational wisdom, grumpy old men, Joshua 23, Joshua's farewelll address, leaving a legacy, Sunday School lessons on Joshua
Joshua was feeling his age.
And it came to pass a long time after that the Lord had given rest unto Israel from all their enemies round about, that Joshua waxed old and stricken in age. And Joshua called for all Israel, and for their elders, and for their heads, and for their judges, and for their officers, and said unto them, I am old and stricken in age:
Joshua 23:1-2
His purpose for this gathering wasn’t just to tell the people that he was getting old, or to merely give a farewell address. Instead, sensing his time was growing short, he wanted to try to make sure that the legacy for which he had fought so hard survived into future generations.
And ye have seen all that the Lord your God hath done unto all these nations because of you; for the Lord your God is he that hath fought for you.
Joshua 23:3
They had seen what God had done with their own eyes, and Joshua had seen it, too, but now he was passing off the scene, and he wanted to remind them that neither he, nor they, would be here forever. Therefore, there was an urgency for them, and there is an urgency for us today to pass on what we have seen and learned and experienced and personally witnessed to those who will come after us but will not have personally seen it themselves.
Be ye therefore very courageous to keep and to do all that is written in the book of the law of Moses, that ye turn not aside therefrom to the right hand or to the left; That ye come not among these nations, these that remain among you; neither make mention of the name of their gods, nor cause to swear by them, neither serve them, nor bow yourselves unto them: But cleave unto the Lord your God, as ye have done unto this day.
Joshua 23:6-8
Can you hear the tone of urgency in these exhortations and warnings? When I coach little league I try to get my players to be hyper-focused in those moments while waiting for the ball to be hit into play. I want their senses heightened, and I want them to realize that this is a crucial moment, but it is hard for young children to maintain this type of focus for long periods of time. Alertness and vigilance can be exhilarating, but they are also exhausting. Part of us longs for routine, which can be enjoyed in relaxation, but that type of relaxation can be dangerous. This is true in the physical as well as the spiritual realm. A second-hand experience of God will promote laziness and laxness, but the danger of spiritual battle never really goes away. Joshua knew that a Canaanite party could be more dangerous than a Canaanite battle. The lazy lure of ecumenism or syncretism is often more enticing than the thrill of combat. We must do everything we can to make sure the next generation knows, loves, and obeys God, and knows the danger of worldly influences – and we must be urgent about it as we get older.
Look at Verse 6 again and you’ll see the standard for doing that:
Be ye therefore very courageous to keep and to do all that is written in the book of the law of Moses, that ye turn not aside therefrom to the right hand or to the left;
Joshua 23:6
It’s not our traditions or our heritage necessarily. It’s the Word of God. This includes clear warnings and even threats about the consequences of leaving God.
Take good heed therefore unto yourselves, that ye love the Lord your God. Else if ye do in any wise go back, and cleave unto the remnant of these nations, even these that remain among you, and shall make marriages with them, and go in unto them, and they to you: Know for a certainty that the Lord your God will no more drive out any of these nations from before you; but they shall be snares and traps unto you, and scourges in your sides, and thorns in your eyes, until ye perish from off this good land which the Lord your God hath given you.
Joshua 23:11-13
Joshua was not only a skilled warrior and a skilled leader; he was also a skilled preacher. There is plenty of positivity in Chapter 23. Joshua loved to talk about God’s faithfulness – how He has kept His promises, how He has accomplished victory – but he ends with stern threats rather than a “happily ever after.”
When ye have transgressed the covenant of the Lord your God, which he commanded you, and have gone and served other gods, and bowed yourselves to them; then shall the anger of the Lord be kindled against you, and ye shall perish quickly from off the good land which he hath given unto you.
Joshua 23:16
As we get older we shouldn’t be the grumpy old men or the grumpy old women of our church, but we do need to remind younger people that, while there are tremendous blessings in obeying God, there are grave dangers in disobeying Him.
Corona and Cornea?
October 1, 2021 at 12:26 pm | Posted in Biblical Eyesight | 1 CommentTags: anatomy of the eye, Biblical Eyesight, cornea, coronary, Coronavirus, eyesight, Q&A
Question: I saw an earlier question where you said that “corona” and “coronary” were not related, but what about cornea, that part of your eye?
Answer: Wow, y’all are right in my wheelhouse with these vocabulary questions. No, the “cornea,” that transparent and relatively tough outer covering of the eye, is not related to “corona,” which, remember, was from the Latin term for “crown.” The term “cornea” is etymologically related to the ancient word for “horn,” which was “corn,” as in “unicorn,” a creature wtih one (uni) corn (horn). Horns have a hard, bony texture, and the anatomist who named this part of the eye must have been trying to describe the texture of it, compared to the relative squishiness of the other parts of the eye.
And before you ask, no, the grainy produce we call “corn,” as in “corn on the cob,” is not related to the words “corona,” “coronary,” or “cornea,” either. It is from the old Norse word korn, which meant “grain.”
A Pointed Preamble and a Dependent Decision
October 26, 2021 at 12:52 pm | Posted in Joshua | 5 CommentsTags: assembly in Canaan, Canannite conquest, choosing God, choosing to serve God, commentary on Joshua, Joshua 24, Sunday School lessons on Joshua, Suzerainty Treaties
Joshua 24:1
This was the third and final of the assemblies that close out the Book of Joshua. The importance of holding this assembly at Shechem is that this is where God confirmed the great Abrahamic Covenant with Abraham in Genesis 12. Many centuries had passed between that promise to Abraham and its fulfillment in his heirs.
Joshua 24:2-13 would constitute the section of a formal covenant (especially a suzerainty covenant) known as the preamble, which was usually a recitation of the relevant history between the parties to the covenant, and that is what we have here, but it is more than that. It is a pointed preamble, highlighting the miraculous nature of God’s acts in choosing them – by His sovereign grace – and delivering them time and time again. God chose Abraham out of a land of paganism. God waited until Abraham was very old before miraculously giving him the promised son. God blessed Jacob over Esau. God parted the Red Sea. God used the pagan prophet Balaam in the wilderness. God continued to work toward the fulfillment of this promise all the way to the vicotry over the Amorites and the conquest of Canaan.
God’s people were not really a strong noble people who persevered. They were not aggrieved but hearty underdogs who pulled themselves up by their own bootstraps. They were vacillating, failing, murmuring, weak-willed people who had to be miraculously rescued and preserved by God time and time again in ways that left no doubt that He was the mightiest (and only real) God of all the false gods in the world.
Joshua 24:14-15
Joshua called for a decision, and he called for each and every person to make an INDIVIDUAL decision. Of course, it was the only rational decision, but still… it was a decision. Joshua had made his decision, but he said, “You make yours.” And it was not just a decision between God or no God. It was a decision between the real God and the traditional false gods (the ones that Abraham’s people worshiped back before God called him), AND between the real God and the new, cool, liberal gods which were worshiped by the Amorites and the people they had just conquered. Joshua didn’t believe this should be a hard choice, but he new that people are going to worship something.
Their initial answer sounded perfect.
Joshua 24:16-17
However, instead of banging the gavel and announcing “meeting adjourned” with a big smile, Joshua popped their balloon. In Verse 14 he told them to serve the Lord, and they said, “Okay, fine,” but then in Verse 19:
Joshua 24:19
Grace had brought them there, but they were still, and always would be, completely dependent upon God. That is also true for you and me.